Services at Rising Hope Counselling

Areas of Counselling

And Where We can help

Anxiety

Often we understand our thoughts may be illogical, but our anxious behaviours still occur. That tiny house spider isn’t going to cause harm, but it makes our stomach turn in horror none the less. The plane isn’t likely to go down with us in it, but our worries take over anyway. And sometimes our anxiety can start to impact us in our relationships/ friendships, careers/ school, and prevent us from leaving the house. It doesn’t have to be this way. Together we can explore the parts of you that hold that anxiety and find a new way of approaching these anxious situations so that you feel more in control of your life instead of allowing the anxiety to control it.

Depression

Ever think to yourself as you scroll through social media and see all the happy, smiling faces that you must be the only one who feels sad, like life is much harder for you than for others? We promise not every happy picture posted is the real image of everyone in it. It’s like a perfectly shaped apple being displayed, only to see a mirror sitting behind it reflecting a bite having been out and the browning core now visible. Sometimes when things haven’t been going well, we can develop blue tinted glasses to life. We might not be eye doctors, but we can help to remove those glasses and learn to see things a little differently.

Grief/ Loss

There is no easy road through this one. The cost of loving is the devastation of losing that person or pet. This feeling of loss extends to losing jobs, friendships, relationships, having to move, or even to some “positive” life events like having a baby or getting married where you lose the option to think just of yourself, or be spontaneous. Loss of feeling of safety or loss of health can also factor in here. If this is something you are struggling with, please know that you don’t have to walk this road alone. You do not have to ascribe to the mentality of “laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone”. You will find a safe place here to be free to express your grief how you need to do so, and find some supports along the way.

Life Transitions

Are you retiring? Or just starting out in the workforce? Did you just return to school? Did your last child just leave the nest? Did you change careers? Or are you trying to find a way to move forward in life after a move or illness or injury? There can be so many types of life transitions and we are here to help you navigate through them. Maybe it’s just a place to bounce your ideas around in, or a place to validate how you’re feeling. Whatever it is you need in these moments, we can help you attain it.

Insomnia

There is nothing more frustrating than laying in bed tossing and turning and being unable to sleep and yet desperate to do so. We’ve been there – ironically while designing our program for managing insomnia and breaking all the sleep rules (lol). And we promise that while it might not be easy, there are definitely strategies to learn and employ in order to get a better night’s sleep. If worse comes to worse we can just bore you enough with why the program works that you fall asleep in session. 🙂

Stress etc.

Yes, this is a catch-all category for all the other reasons you might find yourself wanting to talk to someone professionally. Maybe work is stressing you to the max, or the relationship just isn’t going as you’d planned. Maybe extended family relations are impinging on your happiness, or the kids are just driving you nuts! If you’re not sure if we can help, send us a message, email or call and we can determine next steps together. The only two categories that are NOT part of our practice are: couples/ family sessions, and working with children under the age of 16.

- John Heywood -

“Rome wasn’t built in a day, but they were laying bricks every hour.”
Therefore, so too does recovery from struggle take time.

Therapeutic Models

used in client-centred work

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
Have you ever found yourself comparing yourself with others? Imagining the worst-case scenario and thinking that was FOR SURE going to happen? Feeling like you know what someone else is thinking (and usually believing it to be a negative thought) before that person said a thing? Or how about feeling like only negative things happen ALL the time to you? These are all examples of thinking traps that leave us feeling anxious, sad or low. And the good news is that through CBT we can learn the interaction between our thoughts, mood and behaviour while identifying these traps so that life doesn’t have to feel as hard. After all, nothing is truly fact when it comes to our experiences as we all interpret each situation from our own unique perspective with our own unique histories. Sometimes our interpretations can be reframed and then our mood naturally improves.

It’s All About Perspective

by Janice Hillier

Today was a horrible day.
So you cannot tell me that,
Tomorrow can be better than today.
And that
Being in the sadness is worth it;
Sitting alone
Sometimes
All alone in my thoughts
Hearing the whisperings of negativity.
rarely
Noticing the positives around me.
Happiness doesn’t last.
I don’t believe it’s true that
My feelings are affected
By my thoughts
And
From that is reality.
Life circumstances
Creates
Mood
Life just happens to you.
Which is why I can’t say,
Today was a good day.

 

(Now read it from the bottom up and see how I really feel about things.)

Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Have you ever noticed that every time you go to make a decision about something- like do I go back to school or do I not? Do I buy this shirt or not? Do I move or stay put? That there are always more than one opinion that comes to mind? And sometimes it can feel like there’s a mediator in there too, trying to find resolution between two opposing parts. Well we all have so many different parts to us that this is perfectly normal. Sometimes some of those parts pick up hurt feelings or a wound from events in our lives. These events don’t even have to be big major traumas for this to occur. And when that happens, that part will take on behaviours or protections to try to prevent us from feeling that negative feeling ever again. While all these parts of us have good intentions, some of those behaviours might be things like pushing people away so we can’t get hurt, or assuming the worst about what people think of us, or even being a super hard critic to ourselves so that no one can think worse of us than we already do. IFS helps us identify these different parts of us and build relationship with those parts so that we can offer healing and the ability to move forward in different ways. Have you ever seen the movie Inside Out? If not, go check it out and notice those little beings in the little girl’s head- Joy, Sadness, Disgust, Anger and Fear… this is kind of a simplified version of what IFS means by the “different parts” of us. Ultimately this model believes that all of our parts are good parts and have good intentions towards us, but getting stuck in old hurts (even if we don’t consciously remember them) will lead to patterns of behaviour that might make us stuck. No one is broken, we are all just trying to survive in the best ways we know how.

Other Core Competencies Used: Narrative, Strengths Based, and Solution Focused
Okay, so what do we mean here? Narrative therapy allows for the client (YOU) to be your own expert and tell your story in a respectful, non-blaming environment. Options for paths forward can be explored together and the beauty of being human and changing our minds is respected and expected as situations are explored together. While doing so, we can use a strengths based and solution focused model in noticing your strengths and assets in a situation and working towards solutions YOU feel are right for you. You will always be your own expert and there is no magic in the sessions. In fact, a sign I had made for my office reads: “My magic wand is broken. The only magic here is helping you unlock the answers you already know within.” All the talk in the world won’t replace a change in action to move forward, so you are an integral part of the work we do together.